The Conquest of Happiness

As I was tagged by followersoframbaldi, someone whose opinions I respect, I’m taking a break from all the CA madness to make my happy list. I won’t tag anyone, but please remember to do at least one thing that makes you happy everything.

W/o any particular order:

1. Stories. Coming up with them, reading, watching. I’ve been writing since I can remember and it’s how I got into college. I cannot emphasize enough how much I adore stories. I constantly have at least one narrative going through my head.

2. Taking care of myself. I’m not a narcissist, but it always makes me feel better when I’m doing the most girlish of things. I always use the best products that fit me & after years of doing all of this, it really takes very little time. Like…I put on make up in the morning in less than 2 minutes. Getting my nails done takes about five. And so on.

3. Working out & eating healthy. I’ve been a vegetarian for…quite  for some time now. I never (and I really mean never) touch greasy stuff (it’s so amazing that I don’t even crave bad food anymore). I renew my gym membership for a year ahead. The endorphins after a workout are amazing. Seeing my abs is also amazing. Sounds bad? Don’t care, I’ve worked my ass off for it.

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4. Reading. I mean…this was my Sunday afternoon. I chose Kindle because I like to think of all the tress. In recent years, I’ve read mostly philosophy, behavioral psychology (have the HUGEST crush on Dan Ariely’s work) and existentialism works (still philosophy), but I’ll always love a good Victorian novel or from 17-18th century France.

5. Traveling. Sometime in the next two years I’m taking a 6 months sabbatical from work and going on a round the world trip.

6. Animals. I adore them all. Just watching them play.

7. Random acts of kindness. It’s always nicer and more rewarding to be nice. Don’t take my word for it, see for yourself.

8. Helping people.

9. Snuggling with a cup of hot chocolate and a good book on a rainy autumn Saturday.

10. Making people laugh. I’m usually a clown.

11. Making people happy. I like to spare feelings and do what it takes to make people around me happy.

12. People being nice to animals.

13. Ice cream. Ice cream makes me very, very happy.

14. So does talking with my girlfriends in a nice bar, over some interesting cocktails (Blue Lagoon, I’ll never forget you!)

15. This book. Seriously. READ IT. It’s the manual for happiness.

I was tagged by the lovely survival-of-tha-fittest to list 15 things that make me happy:

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Anonymous asked:

Do you really make Auggie a victim in this situation? Don't get me wrong, I think Annie is using him not always nicely. But c'mon in elevator just before her fake death she told him that she love him. And what he do next? He slept with Helen. Then he slept with Hayley, Natasha. Okay they aren't together but they don't have even real conversation since this elevator phone call. That's why I like Ryan so much. He was patient, he waited, he talk with her and what the most important he listen her.

followersoframbaldi answered:

That depends on what your definition of ‘victim’ is.

Do I think he’s a victim of shitty circumstances? I really, really do. Do I think he’s a grown ass man who can make his own choices that he then has to live with? I really, really do.

In the elevator just before her “death”, Annie was playing a part, a part he knew she was playing. He knew this because he’d specifically told her that the phone she was calling was being monitored by Henry & Co. He knew if she was calling it, that whatever she was saying was going to be an act. That’s not to say that she wasn’t confessing her love (I have no doubt she was), but that it was specifically designed to be over the top so that he’d react because he knew she was doing to him the same thing Helen had.

Which sucked. It sucked big time. He knew it meant that she was going to disappear for who knew how long (because, really, how long had it been since he’d seen Helen - six years?) and he loved her back, right?

So then Helen comes back into his life - and whether or not she did it with the intent to get back into his bed is neither here nor there - but she comes back and looking at it from the perspective of a man who was in love with her, who’d lost her (and remember he thought she’d died - not divorced, not “I don’t like you anymore, go away”, none of that, but DIED), and she was there to comfort him and… yeah. I cannot fault him for letting something happen because feelings are there. And clearly, Annie understood, too. There was no judgment there.

Annie WAS gone for months. And when she comes back, it’s not, “Hey, let’s pick up right where we left off, lover,” it’s, “annnnnd, I think it’s better we keep our distance,” because yes, she has her issues, too, and she’s not ready to jump back into them. FOR GOOD REASON. She absolutely has good call to want to stay away from people.

But that leaves Auggie a completely free man so then he hooks up with Hayley. And Natasha. At the same time…. which, okay, it’s a shitty and shady thing to do, but hey. If you want to judge his morality, the man’s a CIA officer and with Hayley he was working an asset (I mean, if using that excuse is your thing - I still think it’s shady, but to be honest, I think he DID like her in the beginning).

Also, I agree with you, Anon.

Ryan McQuaid clearly knows what it’s like to have a past. He knows what it’s like to need space. And he very clearly doesn’t mind a woman who takes charge in bed (though, Auggie doesn’t either from what we’ve seen).

But the point is… whether you’re a Walkerson shipper, a McWalker shipper or don’t care, the relationships on this show (TO ME, ymmv) are very realistic. People don’t move on in a day and it’s unfair of viewers to expect it.

THIS.

It takes another level of relationship maturity to understand what went on between Auggie and Helen and why it’s so much more complicated than ‘cheating’.

I’m glad the writers went there, it showes how messed up he was. In the course of a few months, Auggie got the girl (Annie), lost her, got his trust in Arthur gone for good, had the woman he once dreamed of a life with (Helen) tell him it was all a lie then come clean and say she wants a new try & got a demotion.

No one, after all this, would be able to think too clearly and make the right decision. No one. If people who still dislike him for this can without a doubt say that they’d keep their head clear in the midst of such an emotional turmoil, then kudos to them!

How would Auggie approach romance?

A while ago I compared Auggie to Sisyphus.  Since then, a few more lovely conversations led to another (rhetorical) question. 

More on point, given everything, how would he approach romance these days, in a realistic manner (probably not what we’ll see on screen)?

All the women in his life, the ones he’d tried to be serious about, left him;all had different reasons.

Helen and Annie chose the job;

Parker realized she got more than what she bargained for and it was too much;

Natasha left him (rightfully so) because he always seemed to put her on second place.

And now, Annie, whom he trusted and always chose, jeopardizing his job for her, is constantly lying and using him (while I don’t like it, I can’t blame her because there’s no way they could just jump right back into that intimacy they shared as friends).

He realized that getting closer to a woman only leads to disappointment.  

However, he’s alpha and not the brooding type. But how eager would he be to try again? Would he see no point in actually trying to make it work, thinking ‘she’ is just another page in his book?

Obviously, I love dissecting characters too much.

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followersoframbaldi:

↳COVERT AFFAIRS; The Annie/Auggie Dynamic
I think this is where my frustration with certain areas of the fandom come from: people feel that if Annie & Auggie are not always together in some shape or form (romantic, work, whatever), then the show itself has gone downhill.I simply don’t think that’s the case. The show isn’t the Annie/Auggie hour. It’s a show about a spy who defuses threats with help from all her different resources, home and abroad.Annie and Auggie have gone from co-workers to friends to crushes that were unrequited (on both sides at different times), to being together, to being apart. The path that they’ve taken isn’t a ‘young love’ path. It’s not even a normal ‘adult’ path, but there are elements to both in it and I think it’s very important to realize that just because they’re not together romantically doesn’t mean that they’re not together as friends, co-workers, etc..Granted, their relationship didn’t fail like, “oh, my boyfriend and I decided to see other people,” kind of fail. It was more like, “there’s an international terrorist after me and everyone I love so I’m going to fake my death and go on the run for a great many months,” kind of forced break up. It wasn’t something either of them wanted, but it did change the both of them and the dynamic in which they work together. Partially because she needed time to recover from killing a man that had stalked her ruthlessly (and who’d also been a man she’d admired when she started her career, despite his name. A man who’d been the father of one of her closest friends who died.) and tried to have her killed. And in the course of that sabbatical, she found out more news about herself that could harm the man she loved so she made a judgment call to keep him safe since, hey, what’s one more secret between lovers, right?Meanwhile, he’s also dealing with the fact that his wife was back (and not dead like he’d thought), and that whole mess. And as much as I’d like to joke about Auggie being the leader of Team Shirtless, he’s also had a  number of failed relationships that he’s had to come back from. He was engaged to be married, and the woman left because the pressure was too much for her. A legit reason to go, to be sure, but she still left. And recovering from that, he went to Annie. And then Helen was back and his current girlfriend was forced into the same situation he learned his wife had been in. Traumatic all around for him as well, which puts him into the category of not knowing who to trust and when. Fair enough.So it’s not so much that there’s a void, it’s that now he’s back to also using people for information (Hayley) and really, how much can he like himself if he has to do that? Especially when Natasha comes back into his life and Annie’s there, too? Auggie has it rough, just as much as Annie has, and there are trust issues abounding from all sides for all kinds of reasons.Throwing these two back together in any kind of capacity is a bad idea; not just in a normal relationship, but when Annie has repeatedly (and without shame or remorse) used Auggie’s friendship - FRIENDSHIP - to further her own cause without so much as a, “please can I…?”, while tanking what he’s doing to better himself, yes. He absolutely has the right to say, “We can work together, but this friendship isn’t a friendship anymore.”There are lots of angles to the Annie/Auggie dynamic and I don’t think Covert Affairs is AT ALL close to being done exploring those angles. One of the most fascinating things for me to see in television today is the male/female relationship as a friendship without it going much further. I enjoy Annie & Auggie in those roles more than I do as lovers, especially now that they’re working back from that relationship.All I can say Walkerson fans is have patience and faith; it takes people a long time to work out those issues… but love does conquer all and it can happen ♥

Reblogging this w/o adding opinion bc the A/A analysis is just plain wonderful and spot on.

followersoframbaldi:

COVERT AFFAIRS; The Annie/Auggie Dynamic

I think this is where my frustration with certain areas of the fandom come from: people feel that if Annie & Auggie are not always together in some shape or form (romantic, work, whatever), then the show itself has gone downhill.

I simply don’t think that’s the case.

The show isn’t the Annie/Auggie hour. It’s a show about a spy who defuses threats with help from all her different resources, home and abroad.

Annie and Auggie have gone from co-workers to friends to crushes that were unrequited (on both sides at different times), to being together, to being apart. The path that they’ve taken isn’t a ‘young love’ path. It’s not even a normal ‘adult’ path, but there are elements to both in it and I think it’s very important to realize that just because they’re not together romantically doesn’t mean that they’re not together as friends, co-workers, etc..

Granted, their relationship didn’t fail like, “oh, my boyfriend and I decided to see other people,” kind of fail. It was more like, “there’s an international terrorist after me and everyone I love so I’m going to fake my death and go on the run for a great many months,” kind of forced break up.

It wasn’t something either of them wanted, but it did change the both of them and the dynamic in which they work together. Partially because she needed time to recover from killing a man that had stalked her ruthlessly (and who’d also been a man she’d admired when she started her career, despite his name. A man who’d been the father of one of her closest friends who died.) and tried to have her killed. And in the course of that sabbatical, she found out more news about herself that could harm the man she loved so she made a judgment call to keep him safe since, hey, what’s one more secret between lovers, right?

Meanwhile, he’s also dealing with the fact that his wife was back (and not dead like he’d thought), and that whole mess. And as much as I’d like to joke about Auggie being the leader of Team Shirtless, he’s also had a  number of failed relationships that he’s had to come back from. He was engaged to be married, and the woman left because the pressure was too much for her. A legit reason to go, to be sure, but she still left. And recovering from that, he went to Annie. And then Helen was back and his current girlfriend was forced into the same situation he learned his wife had been in. Traumatic all around for him as well, which puts him into the category of not knowing who to trust and when. Fair enough.

So it’s not so much that there’s a void, it’s that now he’s back to also using people for information (Hayley) and really, how much can he like himself if he has to do that? Especially when Natasha comes back into his life and Annie’s there, too? Auggie has it rough, just as much as Annie has, and there are trust issues abounding from all sides for all kinds of reasons.

Throwing these two back together in any kind of capacity is a bad idea; not just in a normal relationship, but when Annie has repeatedly (and without shame or remorse) used Auggie’s friendship - FRIENDSHIP - to further her own cause without so much as a, “please can I…?”, while tanking what he’s doing to better himself, yes. He absolutely has the right to say, “We can work together, but this friendship isn’t a friendship anymore.”

There are lots of angles to the Annie/Auggie dynamic and I don’t think Covert Affairs is AT ALL close to being done exploring those angles.

One of the most fascinating things for me to see in television today is the male/female relationship as a friendship without it going much further. I enjoy Annie & Auggie in those roles more than I do as lovers, especially now that they’re working back from that relationship.

All I can say Walkerson fans is have patience and faith; it takes people a long time to work out those issues… but love does conquer all and it can happen ♥

Reblogging this w/o adding opinion bc the A/A analysis is just plain wonderful and spot on.

followersoframbaldi
followersoframbaldi:

↳COVERT AFFAIRS; The Annie/Auggie Dynamic
I think this is where my frustration with certain areas of the fandom come from: people feel that if Annie & Auggie are not always together in some shape or form (romantic, work, whatever), then the show itself has gone downhill.I simply don’t think that’s the case. The show isn’t the Annie/Auggie hour. It’s a show about a spy who defuses threats with help from all her different resources, home and abroad.Annie and Auggie have gone from co-workers to friends to crushes that were unrequited (on both sides at different times), to being together, to being apart. The path that they’ve taken isn’t a ‘young love’ path. It’s not even a normal ‘adult’ path, but there are elements to both in it and I think it’s very important to realize that just because they’re not together romantically doesn’t mean that they’re not together as friends, co-workers, etc..Granted, their relationship didn’t fail like, “oh, my boyfriend and I decided to see other people,” kind of fail. It was more like, “there’s an international terrorist after me and everyone I love so I’m going to fake my death and go on the run for a great many months,” kind of forced break up. It wasn’t something either of them wanted, but it did change the both of them and the dynamic in which they work together. Partially because she needed time to recover from killing a man that had stalked her ruthlessly (and who’d also been a man she’d admired when she started her career, despite his name. A man who’d been the father of one of her closest friends who died.) and tried to have her killed. And in the course of that sabbatical, she found out more news about herself that could harm the man she loved so she made a judgment call to keep him safe since, hey, what’s one more secret between lovers, right?Meanwhile, he’s also dealing with the fact that his wife was back (and not dead like he’d thought), and that whole mess. And as much as I’d like to joke about Auggie being the leader of Team Shirtless, he’s also had a  number of failed relationships that he’s had to come back from. He was engaged to be married, and the woman left because the pressure was too much for her. A legit reason to go, to be sure, but she still left. And recovering from that, he went to Annie. And then Helen was back and his current girlfriend was forced into the same situation he learned his wife had been in. Traumatic all around for him as well, which puts him into the category of not knowing who to trust and when. Fair enough.So it’s not so much that there’s a void, it’s that now he’s back to also using people for information (Hayley) and really, how much can he like himself if he has to do that? Especially when Natasha comes back into his life and Annie’s there, too? Auggie has it rough, just as much as Annie has, and there are trust issues abounding from all sides for all kinds of reasons.Throwing these two back together in any kind of capacity is a bad idea; not just in a normal relationship, but when Annie has repeatedly (and without shame or remorse) used Auggie’s friendship - FRIENDSHIP - to further her own cause without so much as a, “please can I…?”, while tanking what he’s doing to better himself, yes. He absolutely has the right to say, “We can work together, but this friendship isn’t a friendship anymore.”There are lots of angles to the Annie/Auggie dynamic and I don’t think Covert Affairs is AT ALL close to being done exploring those angles. One of the most fascinating things for me to see in television today is the male/female relationship as a friendship without it going much further. I enjoy Annie & Auggie in those roles more than I do as lovers, especially now that they’re working back from that relationship.All I can say Walkerson fans is have patience and faith; it takes people a long time to work out those issues… but love does conquer all and it can happen ♥

I do agree, the show isn’t called ‘Annie and Auggie’. But most (if not all) those in that convo watch for the relationship - or for relationships in general.For the human dimension. It’s a huge topic and it has to do with tastes. The relationships defined on this show (A/A, Auggie & Parker, Annie&Ben, Annie&Simon, etc) are the writers’ strong points,NOT the spy thing. Unfortunately, the spy plots are a cliche, with many, MANY holes. The writers tried to make the show smart and while they succeeded in some ways, in more ways they didn’t. In my opinion, of course. 

I should note that this comes from someone who stuck around because the Annie&Ben dynamic intrigued me. I did not ship them or anything, it just was the ‘other’ thing that made me interested in the show, besides the Auggie character.
Besides that, up until S5, every single interview with Liman,Ord & Corman pointed that Annie&Auggie’s relationship (again, in any form, not just as a couple) is the heart and soul of the show.
So people who fell into this trap and who didn’t start watching the show for the show itself (spy dramedy, if you’d like) are going to have opinions like the above. (as a side note I should say I was merely addressing the tweet you posted, trying to explain WHY some feel the way they do).
That being said, I agree with you that the dynamic they have now is, to some extent, realistic. Given their entire history, the fact that Annie’s lying to him while he’s calling her on it & is plain yelling at her at times is spot on. As you said, they didn’t just break up because they fell out of love/ got over each other. So I think at least in Annie’s case, she can’t feel as close to him as she was. She can’t go back. It’s self preservation, all the lying and detachment. 
I love your ‘love conquers all’ line, but I think A/A have many miles to go before they could even feel comfortable being friendly with each other.
The rhetorical question here is: just how much is too much?  

followersoframbaldi:

COVERT AFFAIRS; The Annie/Auggie Dynamic

I think this is where my frustration with certain areas of the fandom come from: people feel that if Annie & Auggie are not always together in some shape or form (romantic, work, whatever), then the show itself has gone downhill.

I simply don’t think that’s the case.

The show isn’t the Annie/Auggie hour. It’s a show about a spy who defuses threats with help from all her different resources, home and abroad.

Annie and Auggie have gone from co-workers to friends to crushes that were unrequited (on both sides at different times), to being together, to being apart. The path that they’ve taken isn’t a ‘young love’ path. It’s not even a normal ‘adult’ path, but there are elements to both in it and I think it’s very important to realize that just because they’re not together romantically doesn’t mean that they’re not together as friends, co-workers, etc..

Granted, their relationship didn’t fail like, “oh, my boyfriend and I decided to see other people,” kind of fail. It was more like, “there’s an international terrorist after me and everyone I love so I’m going to fake my death and go on the run for a great many months,” kind of forced break up.

It wasn’t something either of them wanted, but it did change the both of them and the dynamic in which they work together. Partially because she needed time to recover from killing a man that had stalked her ruthlessly (and who’d also been a man she’d admired when she started her career, despite his name. A man who’d been the father of one of her closest friends who died.) and tried to have her killed. And in the course of that sabbatical, she found out more news about herself that could harm the man she loved so she made a judgment call to keep him safe since, hey, what’s one more secret between lovers, right?

Meanwhile, he’s also dealing with the fact that his wife was back (and not dead like he’d thought), and that whole mess. And as much as I’d like to joke about Auggie being the leader of Team Shirtless, he’s also had a  number of failed relationships that he’s had to come back from. He was engaged to be married, and the woman left because the pressure was too much for her. A legit reason to go, to be sure, but she still left. And recovering from that, he went to Annie. And then Helen was back and his current girlfriend was forced into the same situation he learned his wife had been in. Traumatic all around for him as well, which puts him into the category of not knowing who to trust and when. Fair enough.

So it’s not so much that there’s a void, it’s that now he’s back to also using people for information (Hayley) and really, how much can he like himself if he has to do that? Especially when Natasha comes back into his life and Annie’s there, too? Auggie has it rough, just as much as Annie has, and there are trust issues abounding from all sides for all kinds of reasons.

Throwing these two back together in any kind of capacity is a bad idea; not just in a normal relationship, but when Annie has repeatedly (and without shame or remorse) used Auggie’s friendship - FRIENDSHIP - to further her own cause without so much as a, “please can I…?”, while tanking what he’s doing to better himself, yes. He absolutely has the right to say, “We can work together, but this friendship isn’t a friendship anymore.”

There are lots of angles to the Annie/Auggie dynamic and I don’t think Covert Affairs is AT ALL close to being done exploring those angles.

One of the most fascinating things for me to see in television today is the male/female relationship as a friendship without it going much further. I enjoy Annie & Auggie in those roles more than I do as lovers, especially now that they’re working back from that relationship.

All I can say Walkerson fans is have patience and faith; it takes people a long time to work out those issues… but love does conquer all and it can happen ♥

I do agree, the show isn’t called ‘Annie and Auggie’. But most (if not all) those in that convo watch for the relationship - or for relationships in general.For the human dimension. It’s a huge topic and it has to do with tastes. The relationships defined on this show (A/A, Auggie & Parker, Annie&Ben, Annie&Simon, etc) are the writers’ strong points,NOT the spy thing. Unfortunately, the spy plots are a cliche, with many, MANY holes. The writers tried to make the show smart and while they succeeded in some ways, in more ways they didn’t. In my opinion, of course.

I should note that this comes from someone who stuck around because the Annie&Ben dynamic intrigued me. I did not ship them or anything, it just was the ‘other’ thing that made me interested in the show, besides the Auggie character.

Besides that, up until S5, every single interview with Liman,Ord & Corman pointed that Annie&Auggie’s relationship (again, in any form, not just as a couple) is the heart and soul of the show.

So people who fell into this trap and who didn’t start watching the show for the show itself (spy dramedy, if you’d like) are going to have opinions like the above. (as a side note I should say I was merely addressing the tweet you posted, trying to explain WHY some feel the way they do).

That being said, I agree with you that the dynamic they have now is, to some extent, realistic. Given their entire history, the fact that Annie’s lying to him while he’s calling her on it & is plain yelling at her at times is spot on. As you said, they didn’t just break up because they fell out of love/ got over each other. So I think at least in Annie’s case, she can’t feel as close to him as she was. She can’t go back. It’s self preservation, all the lying and detachment. 

I love your ‘love conquers all’ line, but I think A/A have many miles to go before they could even feel comfortable being friendly with each other.

The rhetorical question here is: just how much is too much?